Dancing for me is more than just a practice, it is my lifestyle and first line of communication.

My Journey with Dance and Autism

Dance has been my lifeline, it allows me to express every feeling without worrying about words. Dance is my medicine, and I believe everyone needs it in some form. It has given me strength and independence. I want to share my journey to connect with others, especially those in the autistic community, and raise awareness.

Without dance, I would not be as successful or motivated. My message is simple: do not let others dull your sparkle. Life takes time, and we are always learning. Autism and mental health are different; I have high-functioning (high needs) autism, which means I appear 'normal' but still face challenges. Daily life is harder for me than studying dance.

School Struggles and Dance as an Outlet

School was tough, I faced bullying and felt different, but dance helped me cope. I remember one day after a particular hard day at school, I went straight to my room and danced for hours. It was my way of processing the hurt and confusion. I used negative experiences to fuel my choreography. I want people to see beyond my autism and recognise my strengths. My traumas have shaped me as a dancer.

Childhood Memories

As a child, I often felt out of place. I remember during school; I struggled to make friends and understand social cues.

Moving to music, enables me to engage in society better, to function and through movement others can form a connection with me. It is like music speaks for me when words cannot.

Family Support

My family has been incredibly supportive of my dance journey. I remember my Mum driving me to countless dance classes and rehearsals, always encouraging me to pursue my passion. My Dad, when he could due to ill health, watched my performances with pride, often recording them where possible so I could see my progress and keep for the memories. Their belief in me gave me the confidence to keep going, even when things were tough.

One of my favourite memories is when my parents attended my most recent big performance. Seeing their faces in the audience, cheering me on, made all the hard work worth it. Their support has been a constant source of strength and motivation.

Finding My Place at University

Chichester University has been transformative. The supportive environment helped me embrace contemporary dance. I remember my first performance there; I was so nervous, but the encouragement from my tutors and peers made all the difference. I self taught and performed , creating work that moved audiences. Dance is my way of coping with life's chaos, especially during the pandemic.

Tips for Supporting Autistic Individuals:

1. Create a Friendly Environment: Provide quiet spaces where they can relax and feel safe. I always appreciated having a quiet corner in the dance studio where I could gather my thoughts.

2. Maintain Routine: Help others create and stick to schedules to provide stability. My dance schedule was my anchor during chaotic times.

3. Communicate Clearly: Use simple, direct language and visual supports if needed. Clear instructions from my dance teachers helped me thrive.

4. Understand Sensory Needs: Be aware of sensory sensitivities and make accommodations. I often wore noise-cancelling headphones to block out overwhelming sounds.

5. Encourage Special Interests: Support their hobbies and interests as they can be a source of comfort and skill development. Dance is my passion and having a support network makes a huge difference.

6. Handle Meltdowns with Care: Recognise triggers, intervene early, and provide a calm environment. During stressful rehearsals, having a calm space to retreat to was crucial.

7. Be Patient and Understanding: Show empathy and avoid placing unnecessary demands during stressful times. Patience from my mentors allowed me to grow at my own pace.

Resources for Autism Awareness:

1. CDC Autism Resources: The CDC offers a variety of materials and resources about autism spectrum disorder (ASD), including educational materials, tracking and monitoring data, and the best practices for support.

2. Autism Speaks: This organisation provides resources for families, advocacy information, and support for individuals with autism.

3. National Autistic Society: A UK based Charity that offers support, guidance, and resources for autistic individuals and their families.

4. Autism Society: An organisation dedicated to improving the lives of all affected by autism through advocacy, education, and support. (Personally, I would not use the word affected as autism is not an illness).

5. Autism Materials and Resources: Promoting Autism Awareness.

   Link to Website - Autism Materials and Resources | Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD) | CDC

6. AIM Isle of Wight: An organisation that provides a safe space for neurodiverse individuals. Link to Website - AIM - Autism Inclusion Matters

   
   

Support Groups:

1. National Autism Association: Find local support groups through their directory.

2. Autism NOW Centre: Offers map and directory of local agencies providing services and resources.

3. Autism Connect: A comprehensive database of support services, including centres, associations, and special schools for autism.

   
   

Online Support Groups:

1. Wrong Planet: An online community for individuals with autism and Asperger's Syndrome.

2. Reddit's r/autism: A subreddit where people with autism and their families can share experiences and support each other.

3. MyAutismTeam: A social network for parents of children with autism to connect and share advice.

4. Autism Support Network: An online community offering support and resources for individuals with autism and their families.

Benefits of Joining Support Groups:

1. It can be daunting, trying to go is step 1 and this can be a big deal. With autism it takes as long as it takes....

2. Reducing Isolation: Connecting with others who share similar experiences helps reduce feelings of loneliness.

3. Sharing Experiences: Support groups provide a safe space to share personal stories, struggles and successes. A safe that is accessible, autism friendly and makes an individual feel comfortable and welcome. They need an environment where they can retreat to, where others speak their language and have an understanding. Masking daily is draining, having a safe space that gives permission to be your authentic self can feel terrifying, exposing and vulnerable. The feeling of unmasking is like you have suddenly become a lot lighter.

4. Accessing Information: Members can exchange valuable information and resources, such as recommendations for therapists and programs.

5. Finding Emotional Support: These groups offer judgement free space to discuss emotional challenges and find comfort.

6. Advocating Together: Families can join forces to campaign for better services and policies.

Additional Resources For Families:

1. Autism Navigator: Offers online courses and communities for families of children with autism.

2. Autism Society's Next Steps Guide: A comprehensive guide for families with a newly diagnosed child.

3. Centre for Parent Information & Resources: Provides support and information for families of children with disabilities.

4. Organisation for Autism Research: Offers guides and resources for parents on various topics, including safety and transitioning to adulthood.

5. The Autism Project: Provides family support through education, coaching and advocacy.

   
   

Autism is about consistency, but life is unpredictable. Dance helps me manage and find peace. I hope my story inspires others and raises awareness about autism.

References:

Autism Resources for Parents and for People on the Spectrum

About Us | The Autism Project